People seriously underestimate how psychological good sex is. If you're anxious, you're much more likely to ejaculate prematurely, you're less likely to connect with your partner which makes things tense and awkward, you're much more likely to overthink everything and become an "observer", among a myriad of other problems. Drinking a few beers (but not too many) before fucking is massively helpful, but that alone won't do it if you're like me and have some pretty serious anxiety issues. I mean it'll help a lot and I recommend it, but there's also other shit that can be done. Especially if you're inexperienced. If you follow a lot of the advice I've been posting about getting your mind right and altering the way you think (basically future directed therapy), you're on your way to having positive expectations in all facets of life, including while having sex. There's other shit I'd recommend though like very, very detailed visualization, meditation and mindfulness, etc.
Plus just generally doing a lot of research. The girls I go after have significantly more experience than me, which at first made me basically blow lots of opportunities to fuck due to nerves. Actually I still blow opportunities due to nerves all the time. I lost my virginity while high as fuck on several drugs, so obviously losing my virginity alone didn't really make me confident in the sack. You don't really get as nervous if you know more about sex than most people due to reading some books / doing your research / whatever. Now, the problem with saying shit like that is it might give folks the idea that you can be "good" at sex by learning specific physical moves. That's kinda bullshit. Lots of people believe they have the "right" way to fuck down and they go through a routine in the bedroom, but what works for one girl will almost certainly not work for the next. All girls are pretty different. How sensitive their clit is, the shape of their vag, their openness to certain things, etc. There's no one size fits all approach. There's basics that are great to know (anatomy of the puss, unclipping bras, engaging in a bunch of foreplay, or whatever), but whoever tells you the "perfect method to make her cum" is full of shit and probably fucks the same with with every girl, which can be good or bad depending on the girl.
Communication is a pretty big deal with this. It's great to ask questions like "higher or lower?", "harder or softer?", etc. Plus paying attention to her reactions is vital. People really neglect the learning experience when it comes to fucking. I mean, if it's just a quickie with some randomer most dudes don't give a fuck and they just lead it and do what they want, which I guess makes sense, but idk I love making a girl feel amazing and the way to do that usually isn't to just rush through things and pound her for 3 minutes and bust lol. Like even if I think I'm gonna bust real quick, like if I can tell I'm anxious and I haven't been drinking or whatever, I'll just do like 15 - 30 minutes of foreplay (or more, whatever it takes to get her to really get going), maybe I'll even get her to cum, and then I'll fuck her and at that point it's not really that big of a deal if ya bust too soon. Condoms and the right amount of beer can make me last a while though, but even then I usually don't just pound away blindly, pretty sure most girls require a bit of handy work even while I'm fuckin. Like I'll rub the hood back and fourth while fucking and that usually has pretty good results. Or I'll grab her hand and get her to do it. Gotta be careful about overstimulating that shit though because it can be painful for them.
Besides a lot of techniques for learning what works for girls I might go into at some point, in general people seriously underestimate how important it is to be comfortable. If you're stressed, she's gonna end up stressed, if you're awkward, she's gonna feel awkward, and a girl is not going to have much fun or "get there" while uncomfortable. It pretty much starts before you even start making out. Like if she feels like you're confident and in control and patient and not trying to rush it and shit, she's gonna feel a lot more comfortable and a lot more ready to let you have your way. Being present really helps you connect. You don't want to be up your own ass going through some mechanical routine, you want to be vibing and on the same wavelength. Idk it's kind of like going into it not thinking about yourself, but instead just trying to give her pleasure and connect. It's a bad idea to think of sex as a "performance", like you're the star and you have to prove yourself and how good you are in the sack. That's a bad mentality. Go into with the mindset of wanting to give and connect. Doing that means being present and getting intimate. It doesn't mean trying to seem like a sex god or some shit. That'll just get you anxious. It's not a contest. It's not a performance.
Really the "keys" to good sex are just open communication, being present, responding to your partners reactions, learning a lot about different kinds of sex and anatomy and shit in general, confidence and self acceptance, having good expectations, and maybe being able to laugh at yourself as well lmao. There's so much bullshit out there about this it's ridiculous. Don't pay attention to the fake bullshit from some guy who aggressively goes after girls and jackhammer fucks them without any foreplay for 30 minutes as if that's what every girl wants. Kek. Some girls want that some of the time. Most of the time that probably won't even get them to cum and it might even be uncomfortable but they don't say anything because the dude is overconfident and thinks he's the shit and he's enjoying himself.