Existence could be beautiful, or it could be ugly. But that's on you.

"People will sometimes choose an incompetent mate because they're intimidated by competence, so they'll settle for someone they don't respect because they feel they can master them and they won't be intimiated. But it's not a recipe for a happy life, I can tell you that."

oof

Whoa the OP is dope advice

the alex jones one is great jordan peterson is good sam harris is very good ben sharpio is very good

Anytime you're not supposed to like something per some big group it's probably worth looking into for yourself lol. I don't even agree with everything any of these public people talk about but there's a lot of useful / good stuff from them. At minimum it provides another perspective. The video above gives a decent overview of a evolutionary take on why people act the way they do which is why it's in this thread.

If a girl looks at you like this she likes you. Most of the time it won't be that obvious. You should get good at eye contact, also.

ugh

that sounds borderline impossible to me wtf

What seemed more problematic to me was that he said you should get to a place where you're legitimately happy with your ex finding someone to be happy with, even right after breaking up. Like you're able to get to a place where you're happy when you see other people being happy. I get that and I agree, but I can't quite imagine myself being happy at the sight of my ex finding a man better suited to her. And maybe that's selfish, but the idea is you get so okay with who you are and you love yourself so much, you're overflowing, so you're happy that other people are doing great. I legitimately am happy for a lot of people when they are winning and succeeding, like my friends especially, but my ex? I want her to be happy I guess, she's a great person, but... I don't know if I could get to a place where I'm happy she's found someone.

It drives me up a wall thinking about her getting fucked by some other guy. My heart rate goes up thinking about it. Plus I haven't been able to get her the fuck out of my mind, except sometimes. I'm working out, eating a bit healthier, drinking less, meeting new people, moved to a new city, none of it matters. I still think about her. I turned off notifications from facebook, everything. I just don't know if I'll be able to get to that place. At least not until I fall in love with someone new. But by then it's kinda besides the point and I didn't organically get to that place, anyway.

damn yeah, that seems spot on

find a seat and chill, if it's so packed there's nowhere to sit it's pretty awkward unless you have a group of people to hang out with and even then it's a bit awkward

i always try to find somewhere to sit down and stare at girls and chat

when I go to bars alone I just sit at the bar and hang out until someone eventually starts chatting me up, ordering drinks, maybe smalltalk with the bartender

For me the best part is that you think more in terms of wanting a relationship rather than just porn-like situations. And so it makes it easier to act in a way that would accomplish that. Like if you were jerking off every day it's more like you want the hookup type thing. Then after 4 or 5 days you think how it'd be nice to have a partner and it's kinda on your mind constantly after about a week. I haven't fully tested the potential of this, I imagine you'd be better at getting someone to go out with you since interacting with them means much more than before.